I first started tracking my reading in 2010. Since that time, I've read more than 1,800 books. As I start my list of favorite reads of 2025, I've been thinking about my favorites since 2010. At the end of 2019, I shared my top 10 of the past 10 years - https://jaymebooks.blogspot.com/2019/12/my-top-10-reads-of-decade.html. I thought I would update that list with my top 6 of the past 6 years (2020-2025), which aren't necessarily my top book from each year. With time and perspective, those yearly picks sometime evole. These are the books I can't stop thinking about, the books I choose to listen to again (and sometimes over and over) on audiobook. The more I think these books, I'm going to post 6 fiction and 6 non-fiction books that had the greatest impact on me from 2020-2025.
Non-Fiction
I talk about these first three books constantly when talking about how brains work, what our brains need to function optimally, and how to keep our cells healthy.
1. The Power of Showing Up by Drs. Tina Payne Bryson and Dan Siegel
This book changed the way I think about relationships. During CASA training, we talk about the infant attachment cycle - how a baby learns that the world is a safe place and when they express a need, someone will be there to meet it. Drs. Tina Payne Bryson and Dan Siegel take that cycle to the next level. To feel secure, we must be safe, seen, and soothed. This is true in every relationship we have throughout out lifetime. Essential reading for all parents and teachers (and honestly all humans!).
Our brains are designed
to keep us alive. Under times of stress, our midbrain takes over and
disengages the cortex, the thinking and learning part of our brain. It
pulls a fire alarm for our bodies by releasing adrenaline and cortisol to prepare
us to flight or flee. Blood rushes to our major muscle groups, our heart
rate increases, digestion stops as we direct our energy elsewhere, our immune
system ramps up in case our body is damaged in a fight. As Dr. Nadine
Burke Harris says, this is great if you are in the woods and facing a
bear. But what happens when the bear lives in your house? What
happens when you live in a world focused entirely on survival? (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=95ovIJ3dsNk )
An excellent video I use to describe this when
making presentations, particularly to educators, is called Learning Brain vs.
Survival Brain (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KoqaUANGvpA). In this video, Jacob Ham, PhD,
describes how difficult it is to process new information in survival
brain. Please take a few minutes to watch. Imagine how hard it must
be to take in new information with your brain in survival mode. Dr. Bruce
Perry (my hero!) talks here about how stress impacts learning and behavior (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=COMwI2akgqM ).
As you may know,
science is my educational background. Because of this, I’m fascinated by
the science around toxic stress and trauma, as I’ve spent my career working in
fields with individuals experiencing both. One topic I always found fascinating
in my biology classes was aging and the role telomeres play. Have you
heard of telomeres? They are caps on the end of our chromosomes (the big
bundles of DNA where our genes are encoded) designed to keep our DNA from
unraveling. Just like an aglet on a shoelace, telomeres keep our DNA from
fraying. (I know the word aglet from watching so much Phineas and Ferb
with Kaiden when he was younger! https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VwizJNvl62U ). The shorter your telomeres, the
more aged your cell becomes. Just like you could replace the aglet on a
shoelace, our body has a protein called telomerase that can add telomeres back
to the ends of our cells like glue. Do you know what inhibits telomerase
and keeps it from working? High levels of stress hormones.
When I read the description of this book, I didn't think I would enjoy it - a book about video games? But really, it's a book abour relationships and connection. This was my favorite read of 2023. After I read it, Brian listened to the audiobook with me on a road trip. The narration wasn't on the same level as Jim Dale or Daniel Henning or Frank Muller, but it was a decent listen.
The first time I tried to read this book, I couldn't get into it and put it down. Then everyone I knew was talking about it, so I picked it up again and fell in love with Elizabeth Zott and her daughter Mad. As a female chemist in the 1960s, Elizabeth struggles to find her place, ending up the reluctant star of a TV cooking show. The limited series on Apple TV was so well done - I highly recommend watching if you haven't already.



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